The Days Are Long, But The Years Go By Quickly – Parenthood

When raising children, the days are long and the nights last forever. However, the years pass quickly. Without our even realizing it, the children descend from our knees. They start to walk. They need us less. But the time that passes does not matter: our children will always be able to find refuge in our heart which desires only their happiness.

According to experts, our perception of the passage of time changes as we grow older. For a child, an afternoon can last forever. But for an adult, even the years go by quickly. Why ? Just having more responsibility and being exposed to stress makes the brain feel like time is flowing faster.

When raising a child, something strange and contradictory happens. It is a stage of life when the present time is particularly important, intense and sometimes chaotic. The days seem very long. However, despite the difficulties, the happiness that we feel also gives us the impression that the years go by quickly.

We barely have time to take advantage of it when our little one is already working. He runs, goes to the bathroom on his own and protests when we try to give him a kiss. It is as if his childhood passed in the blink of an eye. It may surprise us, scare us or even make us sad … If this is how you feel, this article may be able to help you.

It’s not easy to raise a child, but it’s proof of our love

You have fears that only you understand. For example, you are afraid that you will not be able to give her enough milk. You are afraid that it is hurt somewhere and that you do not know it. If you co-sleep, you are afraid of hurting him without doing it on purpose. And, of course, you’re afraid you won’t be up to it. After all, you’ve been told so much about motherhood and raising children.

Yet after days and nights of waking up, you came to realize that all of these fears motivate you and help you live every moment intensely. The daily challenges, between tears, worries, bottles, diapers, thermometers and lullabies, have become your fondest memories.

How could time have passed so quickly when I have known moments of eternity? It is happiness that makes you feel like the years go by. When all is well and we know our children are happy, the calm we feel prevents us from focusing on the present moment. The years go by quickly because you have found your balance.

If something is wrong, it’s different. Many parents will tell you: when you are going through a difficult time with your children, it feels like time is dragging on. Like a door that cannot be closed. Like the page of a book that won’t turn. Pain, worry, or sadness makes us feel like everything is going much slower.

Remember this: if the time flies, everything is fine. It means you are happy.

One day your child will walk faster and they will have to be let go

We all know it. We are afraid that our children will grow up and move away. This thought saddens us and worries us. Yet this is the ultimate goal of education: to provide the world with independent children, strong, courageous, free and happy people, able to follow their own path.

One should not be afraid or anticipate this moment. Learn to take advantage of the “here and now”, of this present where you have time to build unforgettable memories, full of magic, love and affection. These memories will forever stay in your memory and that of your children.

Take them in your arms as long as they let you. Enjoy those little moments when his hand seeks yours on a walk, where he asks to sleep with mom, where he laughs out loud because she gives him a kiss. Burn them in your memory, because the love you feel today will be your inspiration tomorrow.

The education that you give to your child, filled with affection, wisdom and intuition, will be the light that will soon make him an exceptional person and above all HAPPY.