The 5 Keys To The Bond Between Mother And Child – Being Parents

The bond between mother and child is formed from the first day of conception. This connection is never planned or forced. She appears alone and spontaneously, creating an attachment that unites the pregnant mother and the fetus in an incredible way.

The consequences of this connection remain a determining factor in the child’s life. If the  bond  was badly lived, the child will feel certain  emotional deficiencies. Lack of tenderness and compassion can thus cause the toddler’s inability to interact adequately with those around him.

If, on the contrary, the union between mother and child has been healthy and positive, the latter will feel more the need to establish  relationships based on trust. His self-esteem will remain intact and he will not encounter any difficulty  when it comes to getting what he wants.

What are the benefits of this bond for mother and child?

Research has shown that this bond contributes as much to the well-being of mothers as to that of their children. The relationship that is established between mother and baby is essential in  the education  of the child; and also helps mom feel stronger and valued.

A secure connection  stimulates and increases children’s self-esteem. This also promotes the development of his autonomy and personality from the first moments.

The little ones suffer less from stress  and have more chances of  success  in life. It also helps to improve relationships with their peers and  makes it easier for them to be in contact with others. They are more comfortable in communication and more creative.

This allows the establishment of diverse and high-quality emotional relationships and  also enables the child to develop closer relationships.

The 5 keys to establishing the link between mother and child

1. Promote skin-to-skin touch and eye contact

This will help you  create a closeness between the two of you, which is essential for the child to feel safe. Stimulating all 5 senses will make a stronger connection with your baby.

It is very important to be in contact with the little one through  touch or voice, by stroking and talking to him. Little by little ,  he will get used to hearing you and recognizing your personal scent.

2. Take advantage of the moment when you are feeding the baby

When the baby has just been born, breastfeeding or bottle feeding  are each a moment of intimate contact.

This makes it possible in particular to observe his facial expressions and  his body language. On the other hand, the mother thus brings to her baby a feeling of comfort and confidence in her arms.

Bath time is also conducive to consolidating the emotional bond  with your little one, as is bedtime or when you need to console him.

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3. Make the baby sleep in the same room as his mother

It is preferable that the child sleep in his own cradle. But it’s also possible that he occasionally shares his parents’ bed, in a practice called  co-sleeping.

This famous practice promotes skin-to-skin contact. It  has advantages and disadvantages, which must be known for each case. It is necessary to choose the best option that is suitable for the whole family before setting it up.

4. A baby’s crying is his way of communicating

It is essential to pay attention to it, to listen to it and to know how to interpret its crying in order to respond correctly  to its needs. When a baby feels considered, the bond with his parents improves considerably.

Although there are various studies postulating that it is necessary to let the baby cry,  it is however recommended to avoid it. He may indeed feel bad or need something. In that case, it would be a  huge  irresponsibility to leave him in arrears.

5. Sing and talk to him

The baby will come to a point where he will pay more attention to the signals that may be sent to him. He can also use signs to communicate, such as smiling or babbling.

Responding to these gestures will stimulate his attention and promote bonding in a positive way. Subsequently, these interactions will be used  to recognize the main elements of communication.

Faced with all these keys, it is important to know that everything depends on your baby . When caring for the baby, one should not neglect his specific needs, in order to create the ideal balance between mother and child.