Post-pregnancy, How To Emerge Victorious? – Being Parents

What does post-pregnancy mean ?

Few of them tell you about the phase you must face immediately after holding your little one in your arms. We are not only referring to  the postpartum period  or return to diapers, we are talking about liberation, which we will explain later.

We spend nine months waiting for our baby to be born and once we hold him in our arms panic kicks in because  we think we are not able to give our baby everything he needs for. stay healthy and be happy.

As the days go by, the new dynamic at home helps take away the anxiety, because we are so busy that there is not enough time to sit and think of nothing.

There are few opportunities for us to analyze the transformation we have undergone  and how good it is that it is so! Because every time we start to rehash our thoughts we drown in a sea of ​​tears, discontent and longing.

We cry because of the hormonal chaos affecting us, we feel uncomfortable in our bodies, with  the 24 hours of the day  not being enough, and the nostalgia that peaks when we find that nothing will ever be again. like before.

The role of the mother will take precedence over all others. Space will be freed up between the wife, daughter, sister and professional in order to place the baby at the center of everything at all times.

During pregnancy, we come to think that when the baby is born, our life will be as before, nevertheless dear friends, this is an immense desire that will never come true because the role of mother will be imposed on all the others.

From a mother’s perspective, we will see the world differently.

Who am I ?

You are already the mother of a beautiful child and while you take care of him nothing else matters. You are happy to give her everything for her well-being,  but when your baby is sleeping and you stop in front of the mirror, a bunch of unpleasant sensations come over you.

You observe your face, your dark circles from exhaustion. Turning around and looking at you in profile, you notice that your belly has not completely disappeared and that you still have a few extra pounds.

You bravely open the wardrobe to find that your favorite pants still don’t fit. And it becomes  the perfect excuse to have a good cry. You hurt yourself by realizing that it’s been weeks since you last had a manicure and you’ve been losing a lot of hair. You feel awful, exhausted, and misunderstood by those around you.

No one has told you that you will not recognize your body and how you will cope with every everyday situation.  Few would warn you that the  transformation  from woman to mother is painful, when you find it hard to accept that the girl without responsibilities is a thing of the past and will not return.

How to overcome post-pregnancy?

With the following, you will be able to successfully overcome the postpartum stage without falling into postpartum depression,  which arises from the belief that we are the only mothers in the world with the highest level of self-esteem. low, as well as the assumption that no one understands us and the feeling that things are not going well with our partner.

1. From the first moment you need to understand that  your baby is not an extension of you. With this in mind, it will be easier to assume that you are two individuals with different needs and that you need to start adjusting after pregnancy.
2. When it comes to your needs,  you should strive to take care of yourself,  your tastes, your appearance, do the things you love the most, and enjoy your solitude whenever you can.
3. Defend your space. We are referring to the inner struggle that you have to lead to accept the fact that you have the right to go out with your friends, to go for a walk alone, to go to a beauty salon; and that you are not an irresponsible mother for all that.
4. Your marriage is going well. If you have the feeling that your husband doesn’t understand you, doesn’t help you the way you need, and doesn’t pamper you like before, don’t think the relationship is going badly. Everyone is adjusting to the new reality and your spouse has to do it their own way. So talk to him about his expectations and insecurities.
5. Let the whole family get involved. We all know that we absolutely want to take care of everything related to the baby, but this attitude only generates extreme exhaustion. The best thing to do is to accept help from your loved ones, so that you can get some time and space for yourself.
6. Face the blues and nostalgia. Take advantage of the breastfeeding period, during which we burn hundreds of calories every day, to maintain a healthy diet and regain your weight. Help your body get back to how it was before.

The most important thing in getting through the post-pregnancy period is that  you don’t hang on to what you were before you became a mother. Learn to explore the world and grasp the wonderful reason to gradually become a better person for your children.