Mom, Love Me So That I Have The Courage To Leave You – Being Parents
Mom Love me , don’t catch me, show me what’s around us is so safe. Love me so that I can lose my fears and venture out to explore a world where there are people I don’t know and things I haven’t seen or touched yet.
Love me and don’t limit me, let me be the one to tell you about my achievements and look for you to share my determination with you.
Babies need to know that they are loved as much as they need to be eaten. This is the only way you can feel able to explore and believe yourself to be brave with every attempt. Whatever happens, they will find the protection they need.
You are my natural tranquilizer, my base camp
Mom, you should know that my way of exploring and building my structure will depend on how you respond to me when I look for you and ask for your approval.
Know that in less than three months I will have acquired a certain stability in my behavior. I will already know, more or less, how our relationship works, how I can go in search of you and the amount of “appeasement” that I will find in your looks, in your arms and in your words.
I am reassured to know that when I cry you will know how to calm me down. Don’t worry, it probably isn’t always easy, but we can always play together to help me learn. Your gestures and the melody of your voice will build a cohesive and calming world that will allow me to feel good even if I am afraid.
Sometimes I may not understand you, you have to teach me and have patience. I need to go away to suddenly have the need to look for you and to find you fulfilled, it is only in this way that I will achieve the emotional balance that we so badly need.
When I have my first birthday
When I am one year old, I will have already consolidated my little character. I will be much more predictable and we will both know how I express anxiety, calm down, get involved with strangers, run away from them or even give them little pokes with my hand.
In a few months, I have become a little person and I am starting to become an actor in the world. It can also be difficult for us but don’t worry, little by little we will understand it together.
Realize the change that this entails. I used to behave the way I wanted to, but now I’m starting to hear what adults expect from me. So I try to get rid of my perceptions and try to understand that I have to put the world in perspective and try to complete the puzzle of hopes and desires.
Behind all of this there are a lot of emotions, beliefs and intentions that can be complex for me. In fact, it’s going to take me years (and discussions, too) to figure out that I have to follow a few rules.
It is for this reason that I ask for your patience, mom. I want you to enjoy this stage of my life with me . Don’t worry, I am yours and you are mine. I am a lucky baby to have my dear mom so close, so unconditional and so loving.
Mom, how grown-up I feel when I explore! I am a big one now! Thanks for trusting me ! I know it wouldn’t have been possible without you!
The secret to raising happy and safe children
The fact that a baby becomes an explorer means that those around him serve as a base. This is the secret to educating safe and happy children.
To do this, we must first know the development of his character, in order to understand it and help him discover his environment in total safety. Thus, we encourage the development of his expressive capacities and the management of his emotions and, consequently, of his behavior.
This will promote balanced growth that will allow him to test different ways of gaining knowledge about his surroundings and what will shape his life.
That is why the greatest care we can give our children is to let them explore fearlessly and freely. They will always thank us.
