4 Mistakes We Make With Gifted Children – Parenthood

When you are a parent of gifted children, it is normal that sometimes we do not know how to react to a given situation. Time and time again we make mistakes with gifted children.

Usually they  happen because we don’t know how to react to  our children’s brilliant abilities or weaknesses.

Raising children at home is often a bit difficult, stressful and intimidating  , and even more so in children with high intellectual abilities, as their demands are more difficult.

Tools are scarce, desperation is afloat and this is where we start unintentionally placing obstacles in its path. Many times we do it even without noticing it.

However, the willingness and help of our children prompt us to seek the right tools and strategies to showcase their talent. The important thing is to find the appropriate educational model, adapted to the needs of the child  and complementary at home.

So when the mistakes we make with gifted children flourish, the least we can feel is guilt.

The best thing to do in these cases is to study the advantages and disadvantages of having a child with great intellectual capacities  to thus help his development to be optimal.

Mistakes made with gifted children

1. Scolding for bad writing

In general, when reviewing children’s homework, we find calligraphy that we are not very proud of. We therefore draw their attention without knowing the reasons for this bad writing.

The reason is found in what is called psychomotor intellectual dyssynchrony syndrome.

This pathology  refers to writing problems due to the difficulty of coordinating the movements of the hand. The emphasis placed on the child in writing correctly can cause a state of anxiety and dissatisfaction with himself.

This is a very common situation in homes with gifted children.

In these cases,  we must treat the child with patience and a lot of affection. They like to be recognized for their accomplishments. To underline this weakness negatively, it is therefore to make them lose their self-esteem.

Therefore, if they have this difficulty, it  would be best to help them correct the letter with simple calligraphy  , so that they learn to shape the words. It is a test that can easily be overcome.

2. Punishments for giving a bad explanation

When we entrust the task of reading to the child,  we believe that, because he is gifted, he will provide an extraordinary explanation. By not meeting our expectations, in some cases we subject them to unnecessary sanctions.

Thus, we do not seek the reason for its failure and we do not contribute by our attitude to improve it.

One of the causes of this difficulty is that  children with high intellectual performance have a greater capacity for reasoning than language. They don’t memorize what they read, they just need to understand.

Because of this, when explaining, they do it with difficulty, as they cannot match the words with what they have read before. This is called dyssynchrony and linguistic reasoning.

3. Make them belong to a group in which they do not feel comfortable

Gifted children tend to seek the company of older people  , as their IQ and maturity may even match them.

They intervene adequately in their conversations, contribute their ideas and in some cases manage to solve problems very easily.

Many parents notice this inadequate attitude and subject them to participating and meeting children of the same age. As they forcibly enter these groups, they feel isolated, introverted, and have no desire to manifest their abilities.

In some cases, this attitude causes rejection and intimidation from their peers.

4. Lack of interest in helping

Gifted children are very curious. They need to investigate and learn from anything that catches their attention. However,  there are parents who do not have enough time or are unwilling to help them.

As a result, they respond poorly to the questions they ask them or simply leave them alone when they have a mission.

This is a serious and common mistake. It should always be the intention of parents to help their children one hundred percent improve in all areas.

If the child asks too many questions, it is because he needs to learn and wants to do it. We must react in the right direction, so that the child feeds on knowledge and feels supported by his family.

To avoid the mistakes we make with gifted children, we need to start by accepting them as they are.

It is essential not to lose patience with their curiosity, not to force them to do anything, to advise them and  encourage them to face challenges without fear of failure.

In short, it  is a priority to spend time helping them with their tasks and congratulating them when they achieve their goals. In this way, we will have happy children, who will never be afraid to demonstrate their abilities.